Thanks for sharing, Je-Rel. Ya' know, I'm most worried about the kids too.
My daughter is my best buddy. I took care of her whenever she was sick, I took care of her during her awake hours while her mom was at work or out socializing, we watched Star Wars together, played soccer together, went shopping together, and I even bought her a Yoda lightsaber so we could duel together.
*sigh* It hurts, but in my heart I feel this is one of those learning experiences Fate forces some of us to go through. Some might say that marriage is like the Falcon's hyperdrive and things can be fixed: never perfect, but in working order. But my experience is more or less what happened to Alderaan.
While I'm 100% confident this path will make me a better person, (like your training exercises) the stretching, breaking, and rebuilding of values and identity is a long, slow, delicate, and painful process.